Relationship Advice from an Aggie Football Fan
Well folks, as fall descends upon us you can be sure of three things: skyrocketing sales of pumpkin spice lattes, ill-thought out fall weddings, and the eternal torment of being a college football fan (Alabama fans can stop reading here). I would include the changing of the weather, but since this is Texas, I'll hold off until November before commenting. I know what you're thinking, "What can playing football teach you about relationships Taylor? Did you spend all weekend watching football and then crap out 500 words on Sunday night while up against a deadline?" (Yes). While there are plenty of lessons to learn playing team sports (leadership, discipline, communication, etc), I'm specifically talking about watching team sports.
And I've watched a whole lot of one team over the years, the Fightin' Texas Aggies. I've seen them win (Alabama 2012, 29-24), lose (Alabama 2013, 49-42) and quit (Alabama 2014, 0-59). I've distilled down my game watching experiences into some handy dandy relationship advice or as my wife calls it, 'something productive.'
Celebrate the victories big and small
You and your significant other each have goals, individually and as a couple. Talk about your goals and plan together. Communication is key - what can be important to you might not be as obvious to your partner. For large goals like losing weight, completing a degree, or winning a national championship be sure to take things one week at a time. Furthermore, encourage each other on the small stuff like successful work projects and excellent downfield blocking. 'Good game' butt slaps are encouraged in healthy relationships.
Don't dwell on what you can't control
Whether they be issues with in-laws, your job, or wrongly declaring a fumbled football as through the back of the endzone there will be times where you are the victim of circumstances out of your control. Its okay to be upset, but you can't dwell on them for long. It is out of your control so just take a deep breath, put your helmet back on, and focus on the next play. Though, tackling your mother-in-law is not advised.
Find silver lining in setbacks
Not everything is going to go your way, but it helps to stay positive. Sometimes it takes time for anything positive to come from a tough situation. Usually though, celebrating the small things and not dwelling on what you can't control helps the search for silver linings. And honestly, sometime silver linings never come around (Fran years circa 2003-2007). But you won't find any silver linings if you're not looking for them. So what are some silver linings that have revealed themselves since your last setback? Currently, I'm hanging my hat on improved defensive effort, great QB play, and consistent use of a tight end.
Taylor Barron is an unlicensed, unqualified, life coach who bills himself as a college football expert after a few light beers on the weekend. He also works as a mechanical engineer to pay the bills. If you would like to talk about Jimbo Fisher and A&M's football future he can be found on Texags.com during business hours, and at a cheap golf course after work. Use Lauren's business line below to schedule an appointment today. If you would like to read more of his musings they can be found here and here.
Lauren Barron is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist-Associate specializing in working with engaged, newlywed, and married couples. If you would like to set up an appointment or consultation with her today, call her at (713) 364-9748.