Love Out Loud Challenge
In this week’s blog I wanted to provide something a little different to my readers. Instead of sharing tips and insights on how to improve your marriage or resolve conflict, I wanted to present a short challenge. Over the next 7 days, I challenge you to outwardly and intentionally demonstrate your love and affection to the people you care about most in your life.
Think about the people you most care about in this world. Is it your children? Your spouse? Your parents, siblings, or friends? Whomever it may be, I want to challenge you to love them out loud over the next 7 days. What do I mean by “love out loud?” I want you to outwardly demonstrate your caring for your loved ones through explicit words and actions. Maybe you are thinking, “but I already do this; my loved ones already know how I feel about them.” While this may or may not be true, I want you to be over the top in sharing that with them this week.
Consider the following ideas:
Can I share in words how much I appreciate what they have done for me?
Have I physically help or kissed this person today?
Have I conveyed my caring for this person through some act of service toward them?
Could I do anything to help them out today?
Have I told them I loved them today?
One thing I always share with couples I am working with is that it pays to sometimes over-communicate by being explicit. Don’t assume that your partner knows what you are thinking or how you are feeling. Take the time and energy to share that with them, so there is no guess work involved. Your partner will likely appreciate the clarity of what you are saying, and the fact that it gets right to the point.
So, what will happen if you start loving your loved ones out loud? Well, honestly, they may be a bit caught off guard. Your partner may wonder “what does he/she want from me?” Your kids may ask you, “ are you dying or something?” Sadly enough, because we don’t love our loved ones explicitly all the time, this behavior can seem odd or out of place when it happens. But that is why I am challenging you today to love the people you care about this week with intentionality and purpose. Let them know, without a doubt, that you care for them and that they are special to you. Just try it for the next week and see if you can start to build a regular habit of loving out loud every day.
Lauren Barron is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist-Associate specializing in working with engaged, newlywed, and married couples. Call her at (713)364-9748 today to learn more or to set up an appointment.