Avoiding Friday Night Fights - Part 2: The Best Time to Fight
Are you the type of person who wants to resolve a conflict immediately after it has arisen? Or are you the type of person who needs time to think and organize your feelings before addressing the issue? Couples often have differing conflict resolution styles, and these differences often create more conflict. First, understand that these differences are normal and okay. Although we often feel our way of handling the situation is the ideal way, the other person may think and feel differently which has likely been influenced by their past and family history. Understand that you and your spouse may have different approaches to resolving disagreements, and work to find a middle ground that works for both of you. If you like to wait things out and come back to an issue later, that is fine, but you actually have to come back to the issue and not just avoid it. If you like to address arguments immediately, understand that your partner may need sometime to gather themselves before they are ready to finish the discussion. Which ever your approach, you may need to give yourself and your partner some time to think and come back to a problem willingly when you are ready. A cycle of distancing and pursuing can often perpetuate itself over and over again, and you may need the assistance of a marriage therapist to identify and break this cycle.
Lauren Barron is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist-Associate who specializes in working with premarital and married couples. If you would like to set up a free consultation with Lauren, call her at (713)364-9748.
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